102, GOING ON 103
Yesterday was my sister Vera's 102nd birthday. If you have an
image of an old, infirm woman barely able to participate in any birthday
celebration, discard that image! Instead, see her walking down the street
in her patterned stockings, her beautiful jacket, and her makeup perfect.
It's not rare for some to ask, where do you get your haircut or where can
I find that raincoat?
Vera never complains of any aches or pains. I can’t remember a time when she was sick. She foolishly, according to my opinion, never had a mammogram or pap test in her earlier years. Now she does get flu shots and has an annual physical exam.
When I telephone and ask, as I might anyone, how are you, she always answers fine, as if what a foolish question, how can I be anything but fine.
Reaching 102 doesn’t mean what it might mean to most people. She says it is only numbers to her. She states quite firmly that she’s not any older because of the numbers. She doesn’t feel any older than she felt many years earlier in her life. As a psychologist, I think to myself – it’s a state of denial – but then I just wonder maybe it’s just the way aging is for her.
No sign of dementia for her either. She is very alert, very much in the present, no preoccupation with past memories for her. She still has passionate interests in politics, Obama, reading, fine restaurants – although she eats very little -- both to remain very trim (it’s in) and she believes in a healthy diet. She never takes a drink, although in former years she enjoyed wine with her meals.
Vera often tells me one advantage of a long life is that you can see the story unfold. She’s interested in the unfolding of world events, very interested even more so in the unfolding of her family’s story. She does not boast about her family as so many people do; she doesn’t need to, as other people exclaim what a remarkable family she has.
Vera has one daughter Linda and Linda has three sons, who are Vera’s grandchildren; and they in turn among them have 7 children, who are Vera’s great grandchildren, who range in age from 6 to 19. They were all gathered together to celebrate her birthday. They are extremely attractive, charming, and great fun. But above all, was the atmosphere of love for Vera and for each other.
What is also remarkable about this family is that the three grandchildren, ranging in age from 40 to 50, seem to have achieved outstanding success in the financial world – all three – (no black sheep here) and they are close brothers, living very near to each other, with wives seemingly cut from the same cookie cutter, each of them has their own successful careers and the three couples are almost a little community – although they branch out with their friends and special interests.
Happy Birthday Vera
102 Going on 103
You have some kind of key
But the years fly on so fast
Baby, keep having a blast!